“Therefore, whatever you want men to do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.” Mt. 7:12
““Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” Luke 6:37
“Blessed are the merciful, For they shall obtain mercy.”
“You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I tell you not to resist an evil person. But whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also. If anyone wants to sue you and take away your tunic, let him have your cloak also. And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two. Give to him who asks you, and from him who wants to borrow from you do not turn away.
““You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so? Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect.” Mt. 5:38-48
When I finally found a place of business I would need to use periodically in New York City and discovered despite its wonderful reputation and obvious expertise that the staff fell far short in the way of communication including returned phone calls, the correct approach I needed to take was totally clear.
I needed to look down my nose at them, lose my temper, lash out at them, put them in their place, retaliate, seek vengeance, judge them harshly, condemn them, gossip, slander them, threaten them, be nasty and cruel, and high tail it out of there so I could find a business that would treat Queen Me the way I deserve to be treated.
That was the right way to handle the situation, right? I would be perfectly justified in this, right? When people do wrong that affects us, we have the right to do wrong in return, right? WRONG!
The Lord may lead us to lovingly, politely, calmly, and respectfully and even firmly and sternly if it is His desire confront people when they do wrong. And He may lead us to go elsewhere when it is His will for us to do so. But other people’s wrongdoing DOES NOT EXCUSE our doing wrong in return. In fact, if we wrongfully treat someone who has wronged us, we need to repent before God and seek their forgiveness regardless of their own wrongdoing. We need to be clean and pure before God no matter how others act.
Friend, how we treat others when they wrong us is NOT to be contingent on their wrong but instead to be contingent on God’s ways as He leads us by His Spirit and teaches us in His Word.
Look to the Lord, look to His Spirit, look to His Word, and act accordingly even when others have wronged you!