“O God, You are my God;
Early will I seek You;
My soul thirsts for You;
My flesh longs for You
In a dry and thirsty land
Where there is no water.
So I have looked for You in the sanctuary,
To see Your power and Your glory.
Because Your lovingkindness is better than life,
My lips shall praise You.
Thus I will bless You while I live;
I will lift up my hands in Your name.
My soul shall be satisfied as with marrow and fatness,
And my mouth shall praise You with joyful lips.
When I remember You on my bed,
I meditate on You in the night watches.
Because You have been my help,
Therefore in the shadow of Your wings I will rejoice.
My soul follows close behind You;
Your right hand upholds me.
But those who seek my life, to destroy it,
Shall go into the lower parts of the earth.
They shall fall by the sword;
They shall be a portion for jackals.
But the king shall rejoice in God;
Everyone who swears by Him shall glory;
But the mouth of those who speak lies shall be stopped.” Psalm 63
I was in the shower when the words came to me. 10 benefits of being rejected. I would have tossed the words to the side as I so often do given how continually words come to me, but I was compelled by the Spirit of God to take the words and write the message I sensed He would give me. As someone who has faced rejection, to an extreme degree, for years upon years, and most importantly as someone totally sold out to the Lord Jesus Christ, I could see why He would choose me to deliver this message. And I knew He would encourage me as much in writing the message as He might encourage anyone else reading it. Can you imagine if you’re as sensitive to rejection as I am coming to see there can be many benefits to rejection, even 10 major ones? It may be hard to imagine, but here are 10 benefits of being rejected as the Lord impressed upon my heart:
1. INTIMACY. An amazing opportunity to develop a phenomenally beautiful, personal, intimate, and ever growing relationship with Jesus Christ as Lord fueled in part by the hunger and thirst for love and intimacy and relationship and fellowship and friendship and comfort and understanding and healing and desperate need and desire for closeness with another.
2. GROWTH. An amazing opportunity to be refined and transformed by God and to be conformed to the image of Christ whereby the rejection and how we naturally respond to it brings up the impurities in our hearts and lives such that God can purge from us what needs to go and purify us so we are ever more pleasing and honoring to and adoring of Him.
3. GIVING. An amazing opportunity as the Lord changes us and grows us in His image to become more loving, compassionate, sensitive, giving, kind, gentle, tender, merciful, grace-giving, forgiving, encouraging, generous and patient with others who face their own hurts.
4. SERVICE. An amazing opportunity to be used by the Lord to love, help, support, and encourage others and most importantly share the Gospel with them and share Christ’s love with them and point them to the Lord and to His Word and to help them grow in their own relationships with God when we realize the rejection we experience frees up time we can devote to the Lord and to loving and serving others when we choose not to wallow in self-pity and depression as hard as it can be to turn away from that and instead to commit ourselves all the more to God with our hearts as well as with our time.
5. FORGIVENESS. An amazing opportunity to practice love, grace, mercy, and forgiveness toward those who reject us knowing that no matter how painful it may be and how wrong it may seem that the rejection we experience is nothing compared with the rejection the Lord Jesus Christ experienced in dying on the cross for us and being raised from the dead so all who turn away from their lifestyle of sin, believing in Him as Lord, truly devoting their lives to Him, can have an everlasting relationship with God. And like He loved and forgave, and loves and forgives, we need to love and forgive, in His name, in His strength, for the Lord’s glory.
6. PRAYER. An amazing opportunity to draw closer to the Lord in prayer for ourselves that we would respond to the rejection in a Christ-like manner, and an amazing opportunity to cry out to the Lord in prayer for those who reject us knowing they need the Lord Jesus Christ as much as anyone else and may well have hurt us out of their own hurts, and accepting that regardless of their reasons for having rejected us, they still can use prayer if the Lord so leads us to pray for them.
7. COMFORT. An amazing opportunity to learn to pour out our hearts to the Lord and to cry out for and to receive His comfort which is like no other comfort and thereby to have His comfort to comfort others with which is what His Word teaches us we can do. (2 Cor. 1:3-5)
8. SELF-DENIAL. An amazing opportunity though it can be excruciatingly painful to continue down the pathway of learning to DENY SELF, or to DIE TO SELF, whereby our fleshly nature, our self-centeredness, selfishness, self-seeking, self-pity, self-absorption, etc. along with any and all sin, gets nailed to the cross and we become emptier of self so we can be more filled with God’s Spirit as we day by day learn to follow Him.
9. FREEDOM. An amazing opportunity to discover that sometimes (not always) our getting rejected is actually the Lord at work freeing us from relationships and responsibilities He has not in fact chosen for us that we took on in our own self-will whether it be from a place of confusion or greed or lust or impatience or anything other than His will.
10. OPPORTUNITY. An amazing opportunity to come to find that sometimes others’ rejection of us frees us up for new beginnings, a new direction, new friendships, new relationships, new endeavors, new dreams, new locations, new jobs, new callings, new careers, new hobbies, new adventures, new travels, etc., NOT ORDAINED BY US, but ORDAINED BY GOD, whereby we when we are rejected can SEEK THE LORD, DIVE DEEP INTO HIS WORD as we should do continually anyway, and WAIT ON HIM to HEAR FROM HIM in order TO OBEY HIM as far as how and where and to whom and for what purpose His Spirit chooses to lead us forth.
Isn’t it amazing how the Lord can take something as painful as rejection and when we surrender ourselves utterly to Him show us some of the many ways we can actually find benefits – and blessings – right in the midst of the pain of rejection.
In Psalm 63 above, the psalmist David cries out to the Lord with an awesome thirst and passion for Him as he faces his enemies. Rejection can feel like an awful, terrible, so very painful enemy, but right in the thick of the hurt of rejection, we can run thirstily and longingly to the Lord God almighty for His love, His comfort, His compassion, His Truth of His Word, for His promises, His hope, His peace, His fellowship, His understanding, His friendship, His kindness, His mercy, His grace, His opportunities, His wisdom, His leading, His direction, His ways, His will, Amen!
ALL THE GLORY to the Lord, Amen!